Know that though it feels insanely hard and lonely and like you are the only mom in the world who is having a hard time with the whole newborn thing, most moms face the first few weeks with the same feeling of loneliness. We just feel like we can't talk about it because after all, we are blessed with this little life who is precious and cute and lovely.
But the truth is, we all feel alone and isolate and in our weakest moments we even struggle to see the blessing of the little life. I think it is because we love them so deeply already and almost feel unfaithful to our babies if we are honest about how hard it is, like it may see like we aren't grateful for this gift of new life. And to make it even more isolating, everyone is commenting on how wonderful babies are and how sweet these early weeks are and how fast they grow up and you feel judged for not really feeling the same way. You worry that all the other moms have their babies on a perfect schedule and are making great steps towards getting them to sleep through the night, when you are just bumbling around sleepy and likely crying wondering how everyone else is doing it. Here is the secret though, we pretty much all feel the same way. We are just waiting for someone else to speak up so we can say "yes us too." Be that mom today.
Hang in there and know you aren't alone. It does get easier, but honestly not nearly fast enough because it is right now that you need the rest. But the good thing is God uses these days to remind us how much we need him.
Love,
A fellow weary mom
But the truth is, we all feel alone and isolate and in our weakest moments we even struggle to see the blessing of the little life. I think it is because we love them so deeply already and almost feel unfaithful to our babies if we are honest about how hard it is, like it may see like we aren't grateful for this gift of new life. And to make it even more isolating, everyone is commenting on how wonderful babies are and how sweet these early weeks are and how fast they grow up and you feel judged for not really feeling the same way. You worry that all the other moms have their babies on a perfect schedule and are making great steps towards getting them to sleep through the night, when you are just bumbling around sleepy and likely crying wondering how everyone else is doing it. Here is the secret though, we pretty much all feel the same way. We are just waiting for someone else to speak up so we can say "yes us too." Be that mom today.
Hang in there and know you aren't alone. It does get easier, but honestly not nearly fast enough because it is right now that you need the rest. But the good thing is God uses these days to remind us how much we need him.
Love,
A fellow weary mom
If you could say only one thing to a mom of a newborn, what would you say?
It's okay! It's okay to not know what to do, it's okay to not feel an instant connection with this new little person, it's okay to cry 100 times a day, it's okay to ask for help, it's okay to be honest, it's okay if you are unshowered and still in your pajamas at dinner time, it's okay to have a messy house and eat take out every night! IT IS OKAY!
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